tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post3325608798356292138..comments2023-10-29T01:30:03.518-07:00Comments on Make Daddy A Sammich: IrrelevanceOilfield Trashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00527580828815598952noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-8565311475062031972011-02-22T20:31:53.490-08:002011-02-22T20:31:53.490-08:00@ Stephanie, thank you for your kind words. I hope...@ Stephanie, thank you for your kind words. I hope the kids realize it before I am gone. And the work thing just sucks. Oh well. Thank you for thinking that I am talented, that means a lot.<br /><br />@ Ditz, I hope things will turn around as well. And I think I will try your advice.Oilfield Trashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00527580828815598952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-58062946647007887752011-02-22T20:14:05.345-08:002011-02-22T20:14:05.345-08:00I'm sorry that you feel that way. I hope thing...I'm sorry that you feel that way. I hope things will turn around. Maybe if you plant a little seed in the people around you, very subtle that appreciation is all people like you need, or something like that, maybe someone will take notice.<br /><br /><a href="http://theadorkableditzmissteps.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow"> The Adorkable Ditz' Missteps </a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-48346916209738195932011-02-21T15:34:19.642-08:002011-02-21T15:34:19.642-08:00Hey Oilfield. Not sure if telling you I often feel...Hey Oilfield. Not sure if telling you I often feel the same helps or hinders matters. <br /><br />Being so committed to your kids says a lot about you, and they will understand and appreciate it, but likely not until they are older and are parents themselves.<br /><br />I usually feel pretty insignificant. Like shit at work. And I often feel lonely, even with a great partner.<br /><br />Just know you are funny, talented (Sandrs is right, so is Bruce, so is everyone, pretty much), and obviously loving. Things will look up soon.<br /><br />If not, MAKE time for dating, and consider a new job. You have to make yourself happy where you can, if you can.<br /><br />We're all rootin' for ya. Honestly.StephanieChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01990131434281226939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-62371863648281568952011-02-20T21:20:40.917-08:002011-02-20T21:20:40.917-08:00@ Janie, I sure hope they appreciate me.
@ Pearl,...@ Janie, I sure hope they appreciate me.<br /><br />@ Pearl, snow will help. No really it would. And they will probably write about me the way you do about your dad. I will be a legend one day. <br /><br />@ Sex, you are probably correct in that assessment. <br /><br />@ BlackLog, you are probably right. <br /><br />@ Bruce, thanks pal.Oilfield Trashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00527580828815598952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-73382430025720569092011-02-20T14:28:54.904-08:002011-02-20T14:28:54.904-08:00what they said!
and if it means anything, your ki...what they said!<br /><br />and if it means anything, your kids will apreciate you whne they get older, specially cuz your ex is a doofus...<br /><br />cheer up little buckeroo!<br /><br />i know exactly what you are saying!that guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09171219082208472827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-73054243168588311252011-02-20T06:12:14.870-08:002011-02-20T06:12:14.870-08:00The more you do for people the more the expect of ...The more you do for people the more the expect of you. It's like the prodigal son, does bugger all, goes off and does his own thing, comes back the hero....It's different with your kids but at work some times it is better to say, sorry can't do that now I'm busy. It might take awhile but if you stop doing everything for everyone and get on with what you need to do then they will eventually appreciate you more. I have also learnt that more times than not what people think they need and ask for is often not what they want. So you might do exactly what they ask and still end up disappointing them...BlackLOGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214821496023051754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-24094087976155359392011-02-19T21:44:04.488-08:002011-02-19T21:44:04.488-08:00Sadly it's always much easier to say nice thin...Sadly it's always much easier to say nice things to those that are not close to... it's messed up really! We all forget those that are closest and unfortunately human nature allows us to take these people for granted. I am sure those close to would say more if they read your postAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-43326093515224085812011-02-19T21:40:09.995-08:002011-02-19T21:40:09.995-08:00This makes me want to help you, OT. I'm going...This makes me want to help you, OT. I'm going to mail you some snow.<br /><br />:-)<br /><br />I don't know how that will help, but hey! Couldn't hurt!<br /><br />Your children are self-centered little beasts. There's nothing to be done about that. They'll realize your true value once they mature. Around 35 or so. :-)<br /><br />Unfortunately, an appreciative boss, co-workers with brains, these things are in short supply. All I can say is that I've been there. Hang in there -- these things are fluid.<br /><br />Cheers,<br /><br />PearlPearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261369905176088917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-75821260943202689832011-02-19T20:31:14.585-08:002011-02-19T20:31:14.585-08:00I love your writing, so let the teach roll over an...I love your writing, so let the teach roll over and over again. It's hard when you work so hard and easy to feel unappreciated.<br /><br />They may not know how to express it, but I bet your kiddos LOVE LOVE LOVE you and see all you do.<br /><br />We do. I'm constantly impressed when I read the stuff you've done. You're a good man - and pretty entertaining, as well!That Janie Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17447630124016303483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-30681106451378686272011-02-19T19:47:47.476-08:002011-02-19T19:47:47.476-08:00@ Barreness, maybe I should try yelling at someone...@ Barreness, maybe I should try yelling at someone. <br /><br />@ Semi, thank you. I am going tomorrow to have dinner with some of my friends. So yes I am finally going to do something for myself.<br /><br />@ Galore, thanks for making me giggle. Yes I am doing something for myself this weekend. I am going to eat 10 pounds of boiled crawfish which happens to be my favorite under the sea meal.<br /><br />@ Tracey, I know exactly how you feel. My ex wife was the same way wanting an award everytime she did something. It got really old really quick.<br /><br />@ Sandra, you are right about the perception vs reality thing. Thank you for your kind words. I have never been called a "talented writer". You just made my 12th grade English teacher roll over in her grave. lol<br /><br />@ Pat, I hope you are correct. Thank you.Oilfield Trashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00527580828815598952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-27979277591938892582011-02-19T19:36:26.515-08:002011-02-19T19:36:26.515-08:00The karma points are being tracked and stored!
You...The karma points are being tracked and stored!<br />You are a good guy! If some folks in your life don't know it yet, they will eventually...<br />One more thing, Thanks!Pat Tilletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17699973774273291205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-90632245186885678562011-02-19T18:49:48.499-08:002011-02-19T18:49:48.499-08:00I'm not even sure what I could say. You feel w...I'm not even sure what I could say. You feel what you feel right. But sometimes what we feel and what those around us actually think are entirely different things. You may think you're insignificant, but never be certain of anything.<br />I know, not exactly uplifting, but anything else I would say would be echoing the words of my fellow bloggers. You are a talented writer. Go with that...and I suspect you're an excellent dad. In the end, that's all that is going to matter.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09894333322881236627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-26389882012123997412011-02-19T17:26:39.001-08:002011-02-19T17:26:39.001-08:00I think learning to thank people comes from your o...I think learning to thank people comes from your own parents. My mother always thanks me for helping her , it's just the kind of person she is. So I've grown up being someone who is thankful and I like to let people know that what they have done means something to me. On the other hand my husband rarely thanks me for anything I do but expects a big round of applause and a brass band for putting the washing on or doing the dishes. I thank him for the things he doesn't have to do but does but I shouldn't have to thank him for being part of the family and participating in family chores.<br /><br />In terms of feeling irrelevant...well I look at people like Naomi Klein and think I am not doing anything relevant with my life. But I think about how important it is to bring up my kids to be independent thinkers, to have humanity and be citizens of the world. I guess part of my problem is that I used to be a Marekting Manager, had staff, went to lots of meetings, travelled overseas most of the year etc so my life now is different.<br /><br />A lot of time you'll find me vascillating between wanting to go back to full time work and just wanting to be a stay at home mum. And needing a margarita. :-)FPMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13684773527959270974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-4222104305929035852011-02-19T11:54:01.710-08:002011-02-19T11:54:01.710-08:00Take a moment and go do something for yourself.......Take a moment and go do something for yourself....something totally selfish. <br />Sometimes it's also not about everyone else it's about appreciating yourself and saying...fuck I deserve this. Now don't be going all Jon Gosselin and break the bank ohn Ed Hardy T-Shirts, hair implants, pork rinds, and beer. That just turns ugly and look where it got him:<br />http://www.idontlikeyouinthatway.com/2011/02/jon-gosselin-is-living-the-dream.html<br /><br />Hope I made ya giggle. Seriously though, treat yo'self.CkretsGalorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05639299341765929305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-38008873620880514812011-02-19T07:58:05.814-08:002011-02-19T07:58:05.814-08:00I'm sorry that I haven't been around much....I'm sorry that I haven't been around much. Heck I haven't even been on my own blog much lately. But I adore you! Your posts are often funny, insightful and honest. As this one is honest. <br /><br />I'm sorry you are going through a rough patch, my friend. I won't tell you to keep your chin up but I will suggest that you find something that you do just for you and that you enjoy.Semi True Torystellarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12541179180573292521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-16107334466223801022011-02-19T07:07:26.811-08:002011-02-19T07:07:26.811-08:00I can't relate to the ungrateful kid thing, bu...I can't relate to the ungrateful kid thing, but whenever I feel unappreciated or lonely, I just shout at someone until they write me a sonnet.<br /><br />Not sure how useful that is for you, though...<br /><br />*hug*<br /><br />- B xThe Barrenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00104951958986232787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-65432635221727795662011-02-18T21:26:31.056-08:002011-02-18T21:26:31.056-08:00@ Heather, thank you for your kind words.
@ Roby...@ Heather, thank you for your kind words. <br /><br />@ Robyn, no problem. I have to look out for my favorite Jewish girl.<br /><br />@ Miley, thank you very much.<br /><br />@ Virgin, I know how you feel. Sometimes the irrelevant makes us stronger. No problem, I comment on what I enjoy reading. <br /><br />@ Betty, thank you. I know my kids will one day acknowledge all of my hard work.Oilfield Trashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00527580828815598952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-85768219278167446532011-02-18T20:58:14.860-08:002011-02-18T20:58:14.860-08:00I can certainly relate sometimes, but then I remem...I can certainly relate sometimes, but then I remember some wise words (I forgot from whom) that say--"We don't raise grateful children, we raise responsible adults."<br /><br />Your kids will speak of your part in their life and how they appreciate it when they get older.betty-NZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03950300478215339641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-4930987638569732402011-02-18T20:16:41.350-08:002011-02-18T20:16:41.350-08:00This may not mean much, but can I send you hugs? *...This may not mean much, but can I send you hugs? ***HUGS*** I really mean those hugs, by the way. <br /><br />I've felt the same--I'm beginning to think it's part of life and we just have to push through and rise above it. Easier said than done, though. I've even cried. I said it...tears, they do flow during these times. Sometimes, I think we grow stronger from feeling irrelevant, even though we may not realize it. Does that make any sense?<br /><br />I'd like to thank you for leaving comments on my blog--I really, truly appreciate them, and always look forward to reading what you have to say. <br /><br />Okay, more hugs whether you want them or not. {{{HUGS}}}The Frisky Virginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03782384806427143829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-66832389618994505512011-02-18T20:00:01.098-08:002011-02-18T20:00:01.098-08:00Thank you. You have done lots for me over the year...Thank you. You have done lots for me over the years. I know I've told you I appreciate you before but it should be said again. You're a good guy. So, thank you.Mileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16425833336328499166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-47380369101173135552011-02-18T19:00:17.486-08:002011-02-18T19:00:17.486-08:00You guys are so sweet. Lots of love back to you, O...You guys are so sweet. Lots of love back to you, OT and Krissy. xoRawknrobyn.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15997241410192066577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-90192357349855154302011-02-18T18:58:29.946-08:002011-02-18T18:58:29.946-08:00Fucking blogger just ate my comment! I swear I ju...Fucking blogger just ate my comment! I swear I just need to write my shit in Word and copy and paste. <br /><br />Let me try to reconstruct my brilliance...<br /><br />You. I only know you from this world of blog. I love reading your shit everyday. I love the effort and feeling you put in to commenting on other's blogs as well. You absolutely brighten my day. That being said, I know that this domain is no substitute for real life interactions, acceptance, appreciation and love. Keep doing what you do, buddy. It is appreciated here, fo’sho’.<br /><br />Slainte. <br /><br />SFHeather (aka Sugar Free)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09962640148972128288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-65653401939904960082011-02-18T17:04:53.185-08:002011-02-18T17:04:53.185-08:00@ Empress, I am glad to know that I am not alone i...@ Empress, I am glad to know that I am not alone in feeling this way. And hell yes I am way overdue on some "me" time. Way beyond overdue.<br /><br />@ Robyn, that just sucks. If I were in your town I would kidnap you and not let you leave.<br /><br />@ Krissy, exactly.Oilfield Trashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00527580828815598952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-85466259414676899212011-02-18T16:09:55.858-08:002011-02-18T16:09:55.858-08:00Robyn.. I'm glad we don't lose you no matt...Robyn.. I'm glad we don't lose you no matter where you move, woman! :) You are stuck with us.Krissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15912465691969392635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7152579126175694711.post-39300700246520148332011-02-18T16:04:00.188-08:002011-02-18T16:04:00.188-08:00I hear you too, my friend. Ditto what Nikki said, ...I hear you too, my friend. Ditto what Nikki said, also. Mr. O., I'm leaving the Bay Area (as you know) after nearly 20 years, and many or most of my friends have not so much as sent an email "See ya." Talk about irrelevance. I think people are just generally selfish - except here. If only we could all live in an actual Bloggerville. <br />Virtual hugs and hope for better days.<br />xoRobynRawknrobyn.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15997241410192066577noreply@blogger.com